In November 2019 I listened to Andy Stanley, an articulate Inspirational Speaker and Pastor. Experientially and logically, I already “understood” what he was sharing but just hadn’t heard someone articulate the words…those already-rumbling-tumbling-inside-of-me-words. His words resonated in me, deeply.
His exact quotes and question were: “Some of our dreams simply can’t come true.” “Life rarely goes as planned.” “Reality always trumps.” “What do we do when our dreams CAN’T come true because of people’s choices or circumstances?” Naturally, at the end of his exhortation, Mr. Stanley then directed us towards trusting in God, our Maker, the One who gives us a Hope for our future.
Way before Loren passed away, turning towards God had been the pattern in my life. Throughout the years there had been multitudes of disappointments, even a few heartbreaks….sprinkled with many happy moments….many love-filled times…and times that were neither happy or sad….all days of living out life…serving God….raising a family.
The truth is, eventually we are ALL going to have a job or relationship loss, a heart break, AND a death of a key person in our life. I can guarantee that when it happens, you will not be on your top game for a while (sometimes a long while).…you will be gasping for air periodically….your footing and equilibrium may be lost….you may even wonder who YOU are, no longer recognizing the person you once were….
….and when you can’t “kick and pray yourself out of the upheaval” or “seem to adequately move through a specific situation” you will need to do a higher level of soul and God searching than ever before.
DURING “My-dream-can’t-come-true-because-Loren-passed-away” SORROW, I have done the following:
- Carefully look at the situation in its entirety and ask myself if there is more that I need to understand so I can grow and adjust.
- Along with praying and asking for God’s guidance, formulate an inner plan of what I can do to help myself gain footing.
- Hold fast to what I believe to be healthy and correct and not listen to random advice from people I don’t trust enough to guide me.
MY most RECENT “Life-Rarely-Goes-As-Planned” ACCEPTANCE has caused me to:
- Persevere and accept my new normal, even when the sad times crop up periodically.
- Diligently identify the current positive experiences.
- Daily voice gratefulness to God.
- Practice believing that God is in control of my private Universe and not just the World.
On January 1, 2020 my heart is full of gratitude because I have swam through the deep waters. I have passed through the narrowest dark avenues of the Valley of the Shadow of Death. I believe I will continue to find more peace, more calm and more restoration after the harsh struggle of deep grief. Thank you, dear friends and family, for standing with me on this journey.
Thank you for your words
Thanks Andrew.
I appreciate your insights – grace & peace continue to be yours, as you tend to your own soul
Thank you, Danette…and I so like the “grace and peace continue to be yours, as you tend to your own soul”! Amen. Julia
Julia,
Your comments are right on target, and so-o true. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you Karen. It’s always good to know I am on target, with those of us who are on the same journey. Julia